Comments on: Taking Back the Power Box http://mothersofbrothers.com/taking-back-the-power-box/ All about life with boys...and life in general Sat, 21 Dec 2019 17:09:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kim Shimer http://mothersofbrothers.com/taking-back-the-power-box/comment-page-1/#comment-17298 Kim Shimer Wed, 12 Oct 2011 18:55:25 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=5920#comment-17298 Whew! You covered a lot of ground here. I, however, don't think we "should do it" ourselves. If I kept score (which I'm always tempted to do), my "do it/did it" list is way longer than his (and we both work full time) and if I wanted to be a single woman responsible for everything under the sun, well, I'd be a single woman! Now the affection thing...I'm definitely dropping the ball there. Whew! You covered a lot of ground here. I, however, don’t think we “should do it” ourselves. If I kept score (which I’m always tempted to do), my “do it/did it” list is way longer than his (and we both work full time) and if I wanted to be a single woman responsible for everything under the sun, well, I’d be a single woman! Now the affection thing…I’m definitely dropping the ball there.

]]> By: Meghan @ Life Refocused http://mothersofbrothers.com/taking-back-the-power-box/comment-page-1/#comment-17259 Meghan @ Life Refocused Tue, 11 Oct 2011 00:05:07 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=5920#comment-17259 I'm with Melissa on resonating with any criticism of your spouse is a criticism of yourself. I find that is true of not just my partner, but all people. The things that irritate us in others are so often the very things we can't tolerate in ourselves and the things we try hard not to do. So then we become that much more irked when someone else does them. I’m with Melissa on resonating with any criticism of your spouse is a criticism of yourself. I find that is true of not just my partner, but all people. The things that irritate us in others are so often the very things we can’t tolerate in ourselves and the things we try hard not to do. So then we become that much more irked when someone else does them.

]]> By: Melissa http://mothersofbrothers.com/taking-back-the-power-box/comment-page-1/#comment-17258 Melissa Mon, 10 Oct 2011 22:30:15 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=5920#comment-17258 Hi, I'm Melissa of the marriage blog Emily mentioned. I LOVED reading this blog post which was packed full of so many insights about married life. I really resonated with the idea that any criticism of your spouse is a criticism of yourself. In fact, I just encountered this today when I blew up at Tom for plans going awry when I was really mad at myself for not scheduling our afternoon more carefully. And I too also fall into the 1965 role trap, or at least use that as an excuse to get out of taking out the trash! Hi, I’m Melissa of the marriage blog Emily mentioned. I LOVED reading this blog post which was packed full of so many insights about married life. I really resonated with the idea that any criticism of your spouse is a criticism of yourself. In fact, I just encountered this today when I blew up at Tom for plans going awry when I was really mad at myself for not scheduling our afternoon more carefully. And I too also fall into the 1965 role trap, or at least use that as an excuse to get out of taking out the trash!

]]> By: Emily http://mothersofbrothers.com/taking-back-the-power-box/comment-page-1/#comment-17256 Emily Mon, 10 Oct 2011 13:05:25 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=5920#comment-17256 Wow -- very thought provoking on a Monday. My friend Melissa and her husbad Tom are dedicating themselves to these questions in their documentary on on their blog "The Long Haul Project" and have some very cool insights. This is one of my favs: http://thelonghaulproject.com/2011/10/its-the-little-moments-that-make-a-marriage/ That said, I really like "equality." I also like "understanding." Because you get to a point in your marriage where no one understands you like your spouse - and you rely on that understanding to get you through tough times -- and also through happy times. Nothing means more than that look you share when soemthing happens and only the two of you know what the other is thinking. Great post - and I LOVE kissing on the shoulder. It is the perfect spot -- not too cute, not to goopy. Somtimes Dave will kiss my on the forehead which drives me insane because I feel patronized. (17 years, baby) Must try the shoulder - thank you cousin Beth for the inspiration. Wow — very thought provoking on a Monday. My friend Melissa and her husbad Tom are dedicating themselves to these questions in their documentary on on their blog “The Long Haul Project” and have some very cool insights. This is one of my favs: http://thelonghaulproject.com/2011/10/its-the-little-moments-that-make-a-marriage/

That said, I really like “equality.” I also like “understanding.” Because you get to a point in your marriage where no one understands you like your spouse – and you rely on that understanding to get you through tough times — and also through happy times. Nothing means more than that look you share when soemthing happens and only the two of you know what the other is thinking.

Great post – and I LOVE kissing on the shoulder. It is the perfect spot — not too cute, not to goopy. Somtimes Dave will kiss my on the forehead which drives me insane because I feel patronized. (17 years, baby) Must try the shoulder – thank you cousin Beth for the inspiration.

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