Comments on: Existential Weekend https://mothersofbrothers.com/existential-weekend/ All about life with boys...and life in general Sat, 21 Dec 2019 17:09:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lindacopy https://mothersofbrothers.com/existential-weekend/comment-page-1/#comment-62833 Lindacopy Thu, 23 Jan 2014 20:31:01 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=9220#comment-62833 Yes to all of the above! Thanks, Emily, for writing from the heart and mind, in just the right balance. Yes to all of the above! Thanks, Emily, for writing from the heart and mind, in just the right balance.

]]> By: Meghan @ Life Refocused https://mothersofbrothers.com/existential-weekend/comment-page-1/#comment-60813 Meghan @ Life Refocused Mon, 23 Dec 2013 16:26:17 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=9220#comment-60813 Perhaps we can all make the biggest, most important impact in our lives amongst those we are closest to. Giving our all to those we love. Just that. xoxo Perhaps we can all make the biggest, most important impact in our lives amongst those we are closest to. Giving our all to those we love. Just that. xoxo

]]> By: deagonb https://mothersofbrothers.com/existential-weekend/comment-page-1/#comment-60568 deagonb Tue, 17 Dec 2013 05:55:07 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=9220#comment-60568 Emily, I love what you wrote...I love when people write from the heart and not the head, as you have. I have focused so much on my two sons, providing the most solid platform I can for them to stand on as they emerge and evolve in this world. Both my sons are doing very well and for that I am so pleased, and it brings me the greatest satisfaction about my purpose on this planet. It is a feeling you express in your life as a mother. But you allude to something else equally significant, and that is pleasing yourself by attaining those things important to you outside of raising great children. That is, we must also focus on achieving those inter-personal goals. The idea is, when it is our turn to die, that we have no guilt about how we lived our life. I have yet to achieve all this, but I feel it is important and I am trying. Emily, I love what you wrote…I love when people write from the heart and not the head, as you have. I have focused so much on my two sons, providing the most solid platform I can for them to stand on as they emerge and evolve in this world. Both my sons are doing very well and for that I am so pleased, and it brings me the greatest satisfaction about my purpose on this planet. It is a feeling you express in your life as a mother. But you allude to something else equally significant, and that is pleasing yourself by attaining those things important to you outside of raising great children. That is, we must also focus on achieving those inter-personal goals. The idea is, when it is our turn to die, that we have no guilt about how we lived our life. I have yet to achieve all this, but I feel it is important and I am trying.

]]> By: Well Read Hostess https://mothersofbrothers.com/existential-weekend/comment-page-1/#comment-60553 Well Read Hostess Mon, 16 Dec 2013 23:42:11 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=9220#comment-60553 interesting...I was just thinking about this today, although not in the same context. (Maybe, though, that's what was behind it; certainly it's been working on me for a few days). People talk about how important it is to "put yourself/your marriage" first in order to be a good parent, etc... I don't think that's actually true. I decided I think that's true. I think that's just an excuse people tell themselves so they can keep on doing what they want and not sacrifice anything. In fact, when you decide to have a kid, you are no longer allowed to put yourself first. You have tacitly agreed that it's no longer about you - until that kid grows up and moves out of the house and is a functional, consenting adult. You have essentially signed on to lay it all down in the service of being the best parent you can be. And if that's not what you want to do? That's totally OK, it is definitely NOT the job for everybody. Just like I couldn't be a doctor or an accountant. But if you're not up for it, don't half ass it, because the consequences are too big. interesting…I was just thinking about this today, although not in the same context. (Maybe, though, that’s what was behind it; certainly it’s been working on me for a few days).

People talk about how important it is to “put yourself/your marriage” first in order to be a good parent, etc… I don’t think that’s actually true. I decided I think that’s true. I think that’s just an excuse people tell themselves so they can keep on doing what they want and not sacrifice anything.

In fact, when you decide to have a kid, you are no longer allowed to put yourself first. You have tacitly agreed that it’s no longer about you – until that kid grows up and moves out of the house and is a functional, consenting adult. You have essentially signed on to lay it all down in the service of being the best parent you can be.

And if that’s not what you want to do? That’s totally OK, it is definitely NOT the job for everybody. Just like I couldn’t be a doctor or an accountant. But if you’re not up for it, don’t half ass it, because the consequences are too big.

]]> By: Suz https://mothersofbrothers.com/existential-weekend/comment-page-1/#comment-60550 Suz Mon, 16 Dec 2013 22:20:43 +0000 http://mothersofbrothers.com/?p=9220#comment-60550 Emily. Thank you for this. Glad to know I am not the only one who struggles. Emily. Thank you for this. Glad to know I am not the only one who struggles.

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