A Grown-Up Bed… for Grown-Ups

Yay, a big-girl and big-boy bed! It is indeed high time. I remember a comedy routine of Ray Romano’s in which he said when he and his wife got married, they had to choose a side of the bed. He got the position farthest from the TV, so now her big toe is always blocking his line of vision. (Traditionally, I think the man is usually closest to the door, in order to attack home invaders. At least that’s our deal.) And I agree with Dave, pillows are very personal and important. Woe betide Chris if he steals my favorite, perfect-for-me pillow.

We didn’t have an option of hand-me-downs from dead or divorced relatives. Our older siblings had already claimed any extra furniture. When our IKEA bed and dressers were beyond repair about 7 years ago, I refused to go to back to IKEA! We got “real” furniture (bed, nightstands, dressers, armoire). It prompted me to get new blinds, comforter, and carpet. It was weird, because I never thought I cared about making our bedroom look nice. (Update: We moved 4 years ago. Our new bedroom is much larger and the “new” furniture doesn’t really work. So my bedroom decor is back to the bottom of my priority list).

Pillows – very protective of our individual needs! We even keep different pillow cases on them so they are easily identified.

Sleeping sides – we actually just switched! It was hard. The story will make my husband look bad. So I won’t tell it here!

Mazel Tov on your new furniture! Enjoy!!

I believe it was my brother who coined the phrase regarding all of our furniture (his, mine and my sister’s) as that of the “recently moved and the dearly departed.” This applied to our furniture from NYC to our first house in South Orange to this house. I did specify that in moving to this second house, I was done with IKEA (which I wasn’t). So at the advanced age of hmmhammhhhmmhm, I’ve started acquiring real furniture, including the bedroom. If we hadn’t bought a lot of the furniture that was already here in the house sale, we’d have been sitting on boxes for the last nine years!

We have ALWAYS had the same side of the bed, no matter where the door is, and somehow even on vacation, I get the phone and he gets the clock.

I am terrible at picking out pillows. As a consequence, my David is also vigilant about his pillows, although he wouldn’t dare try to move one of them once I am sleeping. I may not have a black belt, but Leslie awoken before her time is not a pretty thing.

We have a tv, kids still climb in on weekend mornings when they’re around and the dog thinks it’s her bed, not ours. And it’s 27 years later, so all must be pretty well. Enjoy having your furniture match your actual status as a grown up!

Love the new bed. And yes, definitely King sized!

We have a Queen. I can guarantee you that couples with a queen are just short on floor space. I am sometimes tempted to draw a line in black texta on the sheets, the other half is so often encroaching on “my side”
We have an assigned side, although I am currently plotting ways to swap – I don’t like my side any more. I am thinking a bit of furniture rearrangement might trick him enough that he won’t work out I swapped him.
If my partner was fast asleep on my pillow I would yank it out from under his head. He has a sweaty head, it’s not going anywhere near my pillow.
We have a large flat screen on the wall. An early night on a weekend with a DVD in bed is sometimes just the ticket.
If we had any kids I am pretty sure they would not be allowed in the bed. Although the cat is allowed on VERY rare occasions to sleep at the foot of the bed, so maybe they could once a month lie at our feet for a few hours.
Love my mattress – it was really worth spending up on this item!

Queen because the king seems too open. You might as well sleep in separate cots for all the contact you’ll get in a king. BTW, we bought a dial-a-rest bed a few years ago and will never go back. That’s right, I bought an as-seen-on-tv bed and it kicks ass. As far as I know we have furniture. My wife moves stuff around and my socks live in a drawer so yes, we must have furniture. I’m sure it’s grown up and tasteful.

We upgaded our bedroom furniture about 10 years ago (that put me at about your age). Had the hardest time agreeing, I wanted more feminine four poster bed. Settled on Tommy Bahamas, but had to stick with Queen because even though a very large bedroom, a special alcove with high pitched ceiling and King headboard would not fit. Yes, on pillows and sides. I keep my side even in vacation beds and I am closer to the door. One rather large 10 year old still finding his way into our bed in the middle of the night, but not enough room and as soon as one of us notices there is some movement, usually the kid. Love the new furniture you picked. Sweet dreams.

We have a King bed. I like to get close, my wife likes her space…I’ve learned to adapt. We are consistent about sides, but it often changes when we rearrange the room (she says “I like it better over here”, I learn to adapt…see a pattern? lol). We have a TV, and with 9 kids, it’s rare indeed that there’s only 2 of us in the bed Dogs are strictly forbidden. If the kids invite them up, they run when I enter the room, as they know they’re in trouble! Our matress is old, but in reasonable shape (got a foam top which really makes it reasonable), but our bet itself has pretty much fallen apart. I have a new bedframe I need to put together…real soon now…

Thanks Sooo Much for this post! I found this blog so late and by accident but our ‘grown up’ bed was delivered today and it feels so great! Thanks and hope you are still enjoying yours!