This week I get to combine a business with a little pleasure. With the boys at camp and a meeting in San Francisco, the stars fell into alignment and Dave is able to meet me out in California for a little jaunt to Napa. It has been quite some time since just the two of us have gone away together and I’m a bit concerned about…uh, you know … that thing that married couples once did an awful lot of …and as time goes on we just don’t have the energy for?
Perhaps you know about the situation of which I speak? Or should I say “don’t speak”?
That’s right folks. I have absolutely no idea what we are going to talk about for five days straight.
It’s not that we don’t find each other interesting. I think we just know each other so well that we already know what the other will say. I could have a conversation with Dave all by myself. So the lack of intrigue combined with the lack of time to have a deep meaningful dialogue about a topic other than carpools and dog poop has rendered us speechless.
But THAT is going to change on THIS trip. The wine will be flowing, and by golly, so will the conversation. I will make this happen. And just in case our words are not organically formed, I spent the flight out here whipping up my own conversation fertilizer which I will sprinkle, as needed, throughout the trip. To you I present:
TEN QUESTIONS TO ASK DAVE ON VACATION
(Please note: I picked these questions because I do not know what his answer will be.)
- If we only had enough money to send one kid to college, which one would you send?
- Which relative from my side of the family is your favorite? (I’m not stupid enough to ask the other question.)
- At what age do you want to retire?
- If we move from Philadelphia (after the boys grow up and my entire family dies or agrees to move with us), where shall we go?
- If you were to die suddenly, what type of person, if anyone, would you want me to marry? Feel free to name names.
- Under what circumstances, if any, would you vote for a Republican?
- If you could change one thing about our marriage, what would it be? (hopefully he doesn’t say – YOU)
- Think about the boys when they are 30 years old. What is your greatest hope for what their lives will be at that age? What is your greatest fear?
- See that couple over there? (pick random couple) What do you think their names are and what do you think their lives are like?
- Would you ever consider becoming a vegetarian?
Of course I, too, am willing to answer all of these questions. I think there is a 50/50 chance that I will return from this trip asserting to all who will listen that “quiet time is underrated.”So MoB readers, what other fascinating questions are worth asking your spouse when you have the time? And please, nothing that has to do with being on a desert island.